I have to admit I use social media a lot; I have a blog, twitter account and Instagram after all! However, when it comes to Facebook, I often have been reluctant to keep it activated. Why? 2 main reasons:
- I spend way too much time on it. I could be doing something more useful with my time.
- I don’t want to share too much of my personal life.
When I was college, I can’t tell you how many times that I have “deleted” my Facebook account. I put it in quotation because, if you weren’t aware, your account is never permanently deleted. It just isn’t visible to the public, but all your information and pictures are still there. I always thought that by de-activating it, I would be more productive at school, get better grades, etc. I still did, but I also realized that I just needed self-control when it came to looking at my account. Then, I started thinking about some of the people that I have listed as my “friends” on Facebook.
Why I un-friend people on Facebook
Yesterday, I did what many call “Spring Facebook cleaning”, even though it’s not spring but fall. I just thought it was about time to share my personal life to only a limited amount of people. Here are some of the reasons why I deleted people from my FB:
We haven’t talked or seen each other in years and we have NOTHING else in common.
I had FB “friends” that I haven’t talked since high school, some even since elementary school. It’s not that I have something against them. I just don’t want to share my private life if they are not “part” of my life… If you just want to stalk me, then sorry (i’m not really sorry!), delete.
You make me cringe every time I see one of your posts or pictures.
Yes I know I can “unfollow” them on my newsfeed, but I don’t think that’s enough.
- Sexual and indecent pictures or 1000 pictures of your face in the SAME angle. Sorry – I don’t want to see that.
- Gossiping or always (or even at all) posting about your relationship problems (your boyfriend/husband cheating on you, money problems, how you hate this and that person). STOP airing your problems ONLINE. Deal with them in person like an adult.
You always have something negative to say about my posts.
Don’t get me wrong, I love when people have different opinions than me. We live in a free country after all and freedom of speech is highly valued. However, if you start to insult my religion, try to impose your views one me, or simply insult me, then G-O-O-D-B-Y-E. I don’t need negativity in my life.
Why I still keep my Facebook account
It’s one of the best ways to keep in touch with some of my long-time friends and family. It is just an easier way to see what is going on in their lives. Many of them have moved away – to another city or country for work/school, so even though I still have their phone number, it is just more convenient to keep in contact with them.
My mother and other family members are also on Facebook. It’s easier for me to update them, for them to see pictures of my trips and activities, etc. I still call them every week (sometimes daily). My mother likes to say that she likes checking up on me to see if I am alive and well (we live in different countries). I once deacactivated my account and my mother freaked out because she thought something bad happened to me. 😉
Have you deleted/unfriended people on Facebook? Why did you?